James W. Hicks, M.D.

"You Want to Have Sex with a Man and Woman at the Same Time?"

In Myths on July 24, 2010 at 9:17 am

Many people are confused by the concept of a bisexual orientation or identity. As a practical matter, sexuality is most easily defined by whom you sleep with. Even if you declare yourself bisexual, you may be viewed as alternately gay or straight depending on whether your current relationship is with a man or a woman.

Bisexuality becomes explicit only if you have sex simultaneously with a man and a woman, or if you maintain simultaneous relationships with both men and women. These are the least common (though perhaps the most popularly intriguing) manifestations of bisexuality.

The term is also used this way in male pornography to refer to scenes with two men and a woman, and this may be the only reference point for many men. (Scenes with two women and a man, in contrast, are called lesbian, but are presented for the man’s enjoyment.)

  1. Not that there’s anything wrong with that.

  2. Once again–one of those very ill informed views that all those who identify as bisexuality want to have 3-ways with partners of both sexes at the same time. While this may be true for some of those who identify as being bisexual–it is hardly at all a universal view.

    For me and the way I identify my bisexuality—I have absolutely ZERO interest in doing a MFM or a FMF three-way.

    The way my bisexuality gets expressed is that I want to have sex with a lady alone with not other male present and the same thing with men—I don’t want a woman there when I am having sex with another male.

    This is one of the many BS myths about bisexuals and bisexuality that needs to be clearly dispelled!!!!

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