James W. Hicks, M.D.

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How Straight Are Heterosexuals?

In The Flex Test on February 18, 2011 at 11:51 am

A gay friend recently expressed bewilderment at how often straight guys hit on him. As he put it, completely without irony, “That’s so gay!”

For this, my 100th post, I looked back at the data I collected last year from the 4,633 men and women who took the original Flexuality Test. Half of them identified themselves as “heterosexual” at the start of the test. But it should come as no surprise to readers of this blog that people who consider themselves straight have often had same-sex desires and experiences.

Here are the percent of “heterosexuals” who reported having had the following feelings or experiences for someone of the same sex:

52% had been physically attracted to…

52% had been sexually aroused by seeing or thinking about…

48% had flirted with…

37% had had a crush on…

37% had fantasized to the point of orgasm about…

28% had made out with…

23% had given or received a sensual massage from…

22% had engaged in deep kissing with…

17% had been aroused by being naked with…

16% had masturbated with…

13% had received oral sex from…

11% had provided oral sex to…

11% had been in a threesome with…

7% had fallen in love with…

3% had engaged in vaginal sex with…

3% had penetrated anally…

3% had been penetrated anally by…

……. someone of the same sex.

Rates of sexual desire were even higher. Here are the percent of “heterosexuals” who would like to have sexual experiences with someone of the same sex:

41% would like to have a threesome with…

40% would like to receive oral sex from…

30% would like to masturbate with…

29% would like to provide oral sex to…

16% would like to engage in vaginal sex with…

14% would like to be anally penetrated by…

13% would like to anally penetrate…

……. someone of the same sex.

And here are the percent of “heterosexuals” who expressed agreement with the following statements:

58% have sometimes wondered what it would feel like to be pleasured by someone of the same sex

52% feel it would be okay for them to seek sexual release with someone of the same sex

38% would be willing to try gay sex

31% would have sex with someone of the same gender if someone of the opposite gender were not available

24% would like to be able to say they have had sex with both men and women

21% sometimes wonder if they are gay

16% could fall in love with someone of the same gender

11% could live their life with either a male or female partner

10% believe sex with a man is similar to sex with a woman

8% are similarly attracted to men and women

Keep in mind that the takers of the test are by no means a random sample of the population. Many who took the original test learned about it from internet forums about bisexuality. Nevertheless, this is only the data from those who consider themselves heterosexual.

If you consider yourself straight but worry about your same-sex curiosity, this data should be reassuring. If you are gay, bisexual, or curious, this data suggests that threesomes, oral sex, and mutual masturbation are the best ways to score with a straight, supersexual, or heteroflexible acquaintance.

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Bisexual Arabic Literature

In Cultures, Media on February 2, 2011 at 7:23 pm

With Cairo in the news recently, I was reminded of an Egyptian novel that deals with bisexuality. The Yacoubian Building, by Alaa Al Aswany, was a best seller in the Arab world when it was published a few years ago, and it was subsequently made into a popular movie. One of the main characters is Abd Rabbuh, a young police officer who is married but also having an affair with an older, gay man, Hatim Rasheed. Rabbuh has features of several sexual types, though his role is most obviously macho and versatile. The characters are portrayed sympathetically, though the plot requires a perhaps stereotypical tragic ending.

For another great novel featuring bisexual characters in Egypt, pick up Norman Mailer’s colorful epic, Ancient Evenings, set mostly in the 13th Century B.C. The narrator (Menenhetet) has sex with both men and women, as does his pharaoh, Ramses the Great. Menenhetet is portrayed as macho, while Ramses seems to be supersexual. The novel is fascinating for the way in which Mailer immerses the reader in an alien culture, in which sexuality, bodily functions, and religion are completely unmoored from contemporary associations and assumptions.

And back to Arabic, consider reading the erotic wine songs of Abu Nuwas, a revered 8th Century poet who wrote in Baghdad during the early Abbasid period. The classic poet is famous for his sexual relations with men (when he was a boy) and boys (when he was a man), but he also married a woman and loved a slave girl during his youth. He wrote passionate songs about both young men and women.

Movies about Women in Love

In Media on September 17, 2010 at 5:55 pm

Many movies portray bisexual women, even leaving aside those that feature gorgeous murderers that play into male fantasies and fears, like the character played by Sharon Stone in Basic Instinct.

Rent, the movie of the Broadway musical by Jonathan Larson, is one long anthem in praise of human sexual diversity, but it specifically features the bisexual performance artist Maureen. The supersexual Maureen has previously dated the musical’s narrator, Mark, is on the verge of “marrying” a lesbian attorney, Joanne, whom she loves, but continues to flirt unapologetically with potential sexual partners of both sex.

Fried Green Tomatoes, based on the book by Fannie Flagg, tells the story of life-long love between two women growing up in the South. One is a bit of a tomboy; the other (Ruth, played by the fabulous Mary-Louise Parker) marries a man and has to be rescued from what becomes an abusive relationship. The relationship between the women is not described as sexual, but it is implied that they are in love, and Ruth is probably flexamorous. Their story inspires the heterosexual passion of a modern housewife played by Kathy Bates.

The Incredibly True Adventures of Two Girls in Love is just that, a tale of two high school girls (Randy and Evie) who discover they love each other. The movie never suggests that either girl is bisexual, but they are both young and might fall in love again. Having chosen love over conformity, their options are wide open (though the movie is so beautiful and the characters so lovable, who would ever want to imagine them drifting apart from their first love).

Supersexual

In Sexual Types on September 7, 2010 at 8:21 pm

Supersexual is the term I use for mostly straight men and women who value sex for its own sake and are always seeking new ways to express themselves. If you are supersexual, you have probably had a wide variety of heterosexual fantasies or experiences. But your sexual interests are not confined to the straight and narrow. You might refer to yourself as freaky, straight-plus, polysexual, or try-sexual. Several studies suggest that men and women who have sex with both genders tend to have more partners altogether, possibly reflecting the stronger and less discriminating (in terms of gender) sex drive of people in this category.

You differ from heteroflexible men and women primarily in the degree to which you are adventurous and actively seeking out new sexual experiences. Novelty itself is arousing to you, and you push the boundaries. When you are horny, you seek relief wherever it can be found.

Some men seeking sex with other men “on the down-low” fall in this category. Some women who prefer women may sleep with men because they are easier to engage in casual sex. You may not feel affection for, or desire a relationship with, someone of the same sex, but you are happy to screw him or her, fool around, be serviced, or watch and be watched during group sex. You may tell yourself that the same-sex element in your sex life “doesn’t mean anything” when it comes to defining your sexual orientation. You are unlikely to refer to yourself as bisexual, except perhaps to signal your sexual interest and dexterity to a potential partner.

As mentioned in an earlier post, a new biography provides evidence that Vivien Leigh may have been supersexual. Lord Byron was also probably supersexual. Otherwise straight men who frequent adult video stores and restrooms for quick, anonymous encounters are also likely to be supersexual.

Bisexual Beats

In Flexible People on August 26, 2010 at 7:15 pm

The Beats: Pictures of a Legend
Edmund White
The New York Review of Books
August 19, 2010

According to White, “Almost all of the Beats were bisexual and one another’s lovers.” Neal Cassady “slept with everyone” (i.e., supersexual or ambisexual). William Burroughs (author of Naked Lunch) married, but his fiction featured explicit descriptions of anal intercourse with young men from third world countries. Jack Kerouac (author of On the Road) and Peter Orlovsky were straight but would “put out” (i.e., heteroflexible) for Allen Ginsberg (author of Howl), who was gay.

Rome

In Cultures, Media on July 23, 2010 at 1:14 pm

In 2005-2006, the HBO miniseries Rome amazingly recreated the politics and personalities of the Roman republic on the verge of becoming an empire under Julius Ceasar. The acting, sets, music, and story are fabulous.

Among it’s other virtues, Rome portrays several different types of bisexuality in an accurate historical context.

Early in the first season, Octavian is taken to a brothel by the soldier Titus Pullo, where he is offered a range of men and women to choose from. It is taken for granted that men are ambisexual and might want to have sex with both genders.

Octavian’s sister, who has previously loved and been married to a man, is successfully seduced by her mother Atia’s arch-enemy Servilia, an older woman who had previously been in love with Julius Ceasar. (Yes, it’s a bit of a soap opera, but so much more.) Atia’s daughter is flexamorous. Servilia’s feelings are unclear.

Servilia also employs a 14 year old psychopath as an assassin who is supposed to poison Atia. This versatile young man becomes a servant by offering himself as a sexual bottom to the senior slave of Atia’s household, but he also flirts boldly with Servilia. For him it is all about the money.

In one episode, Lucius Vorenus’ fellow mobsters anally rape another man, reflecting the sexual violence that can be condoned within a macho sexual culture. Marc Anthony also rapes a passing woman and expects continuous sex from his slaves. He’s never shown having sex with a man (unless you count the orgies in Cleopatra’s court, where he shows off his new tattoos), but he is presumably supersexual.

Vorenus’ tavern manager in the second season, who becomes Titus Pullo’s girlfriend, is portrayed as atypically (for the time) manly and sexually aggressive, suggesting she might have metamorphic traits.

Julius Ceasar is involved only with women in the series, but the real Julius Ceasar was known in his time to have had a homosexual relationship when he was a young man. In fact, he was assumed to have been the bottom, which could have destroyed his reputation if he were not so strongly respected by his men as a soldier. He might have been flexamorous or ambisexual.

Bisexual Rapper

In Flexible People on July 16, 2010 at 6:49 am

Over the last year, many female entertainers have declared that they are sexually attracted to, or capable of falling in love with, both men and women. But male celebrities rarely acknowledge any sort of bisexuality.

Now a rising star, Imani the Misfit, has marketed himself as the first “bisexual porn star rapper.” In an interview with New York Examiner, Imani reports that he is more attracted to women but has been sexually attracted to men as well since he was 13. He has posed naked and would like to be filmed having sex with men for a pornographic movie.

Imani asserts a masculine image (saying he’s “not a sissy or wuss”) and says that women are turned on by his profession of bisexuality.

Imani describes himself in a manner that suggests he is ambisexual and supersexual. He believes that men who are “freaky” in bed with women have most likely fooled around with men as well.

You can see more pictures and listen to his latest song at the Examiner web page.

Go Girls!

In Flexible People on June 15, 2010 at 11:41 am

Female entertainers have been leaping out of the closet recently.

Christina Aguilera, while promoting her new album Bi-on-ic, told Out magazine this month that her husband knows she’s “into girls… it’s fun to be open and play.” She describes women as more visually attractive than men. However, she goes on to qualify that she could not live without “dick” and cannot really imagine having sex with a woman, because there would be too much “estrogen” in the room. She did not go so far as to call herself bisexual, but her statements reveal flexible thinking. The singer has a young child with her husband of many years.

Anna Paquin, a star of True Blood, the X-Men movies, and The Piano, recently declared herself bisexual for a public service announcement for The True Colors Fund, an organization advocating for LGBT rights. She is engaged to be married to her male co-star.

Lady Gaga told Rolling Stone a year ago that she was bisexual, and confirmed in an interview with Barbara Walters in December that she has had sexual relationships with women. She says her attraction to women is purely physical.

Fergie of the Black-Eyed Peas told The Sun a year ago that she considers herself bisexual. She had previously revealed that she has had sex with both men and women. She is in a long-term relationship with a male actor.

A week earlier, actress Megan Fox of the Transformers also revealed that she was bisexual and had had sex with women.

Which sexual type best describes each of these entertainers? Fergie and Lady Gaga hint at being supersexual. Anna Paquin makes no apologies and might be flexamorous or ambisexual. Christina Aquilera is unafraid to say that she finds women attractive and may be heteroflexible, if not just self-promotional. If anyone knows these stars, please ask them to take the Flexuality Test!

Each of these women deserves applause for leading the way and resisting the pressure to define herself as straight.