Ever wonder if you are straight, gay, bi, or something else? The Flexuality Test assesses your attitudes, feelings, experiences, and desires. Your answers will be automatically analyzed to generate a sexual profile, with reference to a dozen sexual types.
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Many of the sexual types overlap, so your profile may include traits from one or more types. These are not professionally accepted or “diagnostic” terms. I have had to invent or redefine many of them, because the concepts which they describe have not been categorized in this way before. They are derived from a thorough review of the literature, but they are intended to be helpful rather than definitive. Click the terms for more details.
- Heteroflexible: You are open to fooling around with someone of the same sex, even though you generally consider yourself straight. Also known as bi-curious, questioning, experimenting, or mostly straight.
- Supersexual: You have a strong drive and are interested in finding new ways to express yourself sexually. You probably prefer the opposite sex, but gender is less important than opportunity.
- Ambisexual: You are attracted to both men and women, though not necessarily in the same ways or to the same degree. Also known as classic bisexual, AC-DC, 50-50, or a Kinsey 3.
- Flexamorous: You have the capacity to have romantic relationships with both men and women. Your tastes and experience may be fluid and not determined by the gender of your partner.
- Gay or Lesbian: You have a strong preference for members of the same sex. You have probably had experiences with the opposite sex as well, but your same-sex desires are strong enough that you would not want to live as straight. Also known as homosexual.
- Queer: You are frustrated with the divide between gay and straight, and suspicious of divisions between male and female. You may consider yourself post-gay and beyond labels. You may also call yourself homoflexible, to reflect your gay preferences and openness to other relationships.
- Metamorphic: You feel different from the gender of your birth, either in your life as a whole or only in the realm of sex. There are several different metamorphic types; also known as androgynous, cross-dresser, transgender, transvestite, transvestic fetish, or transsexual.
- Transitioning: Your sense of sexual orientation is changing or evolving. Commonly known as coming out of the closet, in the case of same-sex interests; you may transition in other directions.
- Restrained: Your desires are at odds with your view of yourself and your relationship to your family and society. Also known as closet case or on the down-low.
- Versatile: You are willing and able to have sex with others for whom you do not feel much desire or love, usually because you derive some other benefit from the relationship. Also known as gay-for-pay or sugarbaby.
- Macho: You are willing to have sex with someone of the same sex, so long as you are the active or insertive partner. Your partner may be gay, but you consider yourself straight (in the more typical male case), a “top,” or (in the case of women) butch.
- Straight: You lack sexual and romantic feelings for members of the same sex, and any same-sex experiences have confirmed your lack of interest. Also known as heterosexual.
Here’s a graph showing the actual sexual types of the approximately 8,000 men and women who have taken the test, by percentage and broken down according to whether the subject self-identified as heterosexual, homosexual, or bisexual:
Please keep in mind that there is nothing magical about this test. The resulting profile is based entirely on the answers you give and is intended to provide a framework to help you think about your sexual orientation. It cannot reveal sexual tendencies of which you are unaware. If the profile seems inaccurate to you, trust your judgment; the test cannot uncover something you have kept secret from yourself.
If you have any questions about your profile, feel free to write me at flexuality@hotmail.com.
I see some refinements that you can make. Some of your terms are re-names of concepts already in existence in the sex communities, some of your concepts could use some further thought.
1) In your “gay or lesbian” profile description, you say; “You have probably had experiences with the opposite sex as well, but your same-sex desires are strong enough that you would not want to live as straight.”
I find that assumption problematic. The primary reason most GL folk have had opposite sex experiences is because of the overwhelming heteronormative world we live in, not because they were acting on their druthers. In the interests of fairness, we should not consider past history as pertaining to sexual identity for many GL folk– plus, some in the younger generations have had a chance to grow up completely in tune with their sexual preference and have never been pressured into having het sex.
You are using “Homoflexible” as a synonym for “Queer.” I’d like to suggest that, identical to “heteroflexible,” Homoflexible people are folk who are really truly gay, but will mess around with a member of the opposite sex once in a very rare while.
2) There is a difference between gender identity and sexual orientation. Although I am what you call “metamorphic” (what we who are such call “genderqueer”) that should not be confused with my sexual preferences. As a human being, I feel I was born female, but should have a penis. As a sexual being, I identify as “Bisexual, poly, top dyke.” (“Top” being equivalent to your “Macho,” and an extremely common word all over the sexual continuum.)
In fact, you have dumped some false tells into your “Metamorphic” category, confusing a sense of incorrect gender with the way one expresses that– transvestitism is a behaviorwhich can stem from several different motivators, from simple sensual preference to fetish, to an actual expression of gender disphoria ..some of these motives are antithetical to others, regardless of the similarity of the outcome.
On the other hand you divide promiscuous behavior into two motivations; what you call “supersexual,” and “versatile” (“gay for pay,” really? The term I think of is “whore.”).
Also– very important– you have completly overlooked a very important category, “Ace” or asexual.
Keep working on this though, you have the seed of something with potential!
Hey Stella, thanks for all of the thoughtful feedback. Of course many of your points are well-taken. I wanted to create an even dozen categories, and inevitably there are issues about where to lump and where to split. Personally, I don’t believe that any of these categories have any permanent reality. They are just sketches of how sexual orientation manifests itself in our time and culture, and many people would not fall neatly into one or the other. My hope is that these dozen categories provide more working terms for people to play with and learn from, compared to the reigning gay-bi-straight paradigm.
For your comments on metamorphic, see the metamorphic post, where I’ve responded.
Regarding versatile, I certainly do not mean to convey a negative judgment about anyone who has what I call versatile traits, nor am I suggesting those traits are confined to people who exchange sex for money. “Whore” is not a term I find helpful.
You are right to point out the omission of asexual, which I regret, but my original focus was on identifying categories and traits that might lead men and women to have non-heterosexual feelings and behaviors. It would be a much broader project to try to capture all elements of sexuality (fetishes, preferred partner ages, etc.).
This is definitely very intriguing; however, I couldn’t help but notice the lack of an “asexual” category. I have a friend who is very clearly asexual, and I’ve learned that the category encompasses a deeper and wider range of emotion and romantic feeling than might normally be thought.
Several people have made a similar suggestion, and I agree the asexual is a category of interest. But these are just categories that relate to the spectrum of same and opposite sex attraction. In other words, they all relate to degrees of bisexuality. They are not intended to capture all aspects of human sexuality, including fetishes, age preferences, and other dimensions.
I have taken this test twice, the second time with the more in depth questions regarding areas of sexuality. The first time the test had me considerably off from what I know is my homosexuality. The second time, with the more nuanced questions and response possibilities, the test pretty much nailed me exactly, i.e., as Gay.
I have no doubt that this test can be worked on and made even more advanced — Stella above has offered several intriguing avenues of pursuit — but I’d like to offer a genuine thanks to Dr. Hicks for all of his work. This is an important area of study and Dr. Hicks, through his Flexuality, is providing groundbreaking scholarship.
Thanks much!
Dan
Hmmm… Intriguing, but I’m not so sure about the validity. At 54 years of age, I’m rather confirmed in my sexuality and have been comfortable with it for year. It’s really quite simple. I prefer a heterosexual lifestyle, but have enjoyed sex with men. I don’t see myself ever wanting to live with a man as a partner and I don’t think I could feel romantic love for a man.
My main concern is that you are making matters worse by creating even more pigeonholes and labels. These need to go away. What’s wrong with just being sexual? I have always felt that those who insist that they are 100% straight or 100% gay are really sexually maladjusted.
Also, sex has nothing to do with love and I’ve never understood why western people have insisted on combining the two since the middle ages.
This is interesting, but I’d like to note that asexuals (yes, I do realize two other people mentioned them) sometimes do experience romantic, yet non-sexual, attraction to males, females, or both (as well as non-binary people) and thus could have provided further diversity to the test without going off on an unrelated tangent (as romantic relationships are included here as well as sexual.)
You make a good point. I think it’s also fair to say that minority experiences often provide clues to better understanding majority phenomena.
I feel as if I knew what my answer was going to be, it turned out I was eerily right. Some questions were confusing, as in they could be thought in either way. I remember one that went along the lines of “being interested in new ways” but that could be perceived as being with that same or oppo. partner so I felt that maybe many people who truly are adventurous have held out in fear of saying something other than what they meant.
Also some questions were obvious but then I thought about them too much and it seemed like there was a hidden meaning like “similarly attracted to men and women” hmm. I still don’t fully understand what it means but I dumbed it down to what i felt was ‘attracted to both men and women” rather than what I would normally think (he’s hot-sexual and oh I wish I had her butt-jealousy).
And “flexible in sexual tastes”… omg does that mean I like changing the routine up or changing my partner or the gender all together?! And feeling ashamed of sexual desires. I know for myself and others that sometimes it’s not a hidden meaning (aka politician who likes same sex but won’t admit) because sometimes it’s you being extremely… sexual lol or you desiring someone who’s not avaliable (your ex’s bestfriend or your bf’s brother or a stranger!)
Last comment for bashing on questions, “refraining from true sexual desires”. Do you know that sometimes you just gotta contain that wild animal inside lol! Just because your feeling hot and bothered at a very inconvenient time doesn’t mean your refraining from pouncing on that same gender person because you feel you shouldn’t. I’ve always been the type of person who sees too much into things, and the perfectionist in me demands details. Oh by the way on the subject of details!
I feel as if there is simply nothing to you if you’re straight! lmao I got 9 for the blue chart in straight 0 for everything else. For the yellows I was at 0 for everything! I felt slightly boring, think of plain old traditional granny (missionary) sex. So I decided the test MUST be wrong, I can’t have 0 for all yellows, I read all the descriptions and alas. I’m a boring person. One of these days I’m going to demand something be created for straights.
I’m not against the GL community, I’m not religious, nature let’s animals have fun with the same gender so why shouldn’t humans? We all know dogs, horses, cattle, lions, cats, chicken, penguins, frogs, fish, bugs etc can display homosexual behavior. So for those to say a man/m or woman/w or man/m/w or woman/w/m etc etc etc is not natural take a good look outside! I’m out there rolling my eyes at your stupidity, you moron. GL are great people, actually there more normal than some average people… I have never seen the big deal in being straight or otherwise and I’ve never thought it to be my business to tell anyone who they should or should not be.
Wow. This is turning into a rant. My main point is, it was kind of disappointing to see I’m straight and that’s it. It’s like hearing the fat lady sing! Let’s be fair to the straights, we’re not all the same. Take it for me, I’m pretty crazy. There should more details referring to the hetros, not just oh your 9 out of 10 straight and 0 for everything else, goodbye. Really?